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Check Point

Today is the last day of June and it suddenly occurred to me that we are halfway through the year! I felt it was a good moment to check myself, and I thought we could check ourselves together.

In Part 2 of Healing Tree, I talk about the 8 Steps of Self-Mastery for Inner Processing (as part of Brain Education):

  1. AWAKEN: Stimulate your body strong enough to bring your awareness to the sensation of your body.
  2. FEEL: Feel everything honestly (sensations, emotions etc.).
  3. WATCH: Identify all feelings without judgment.
  4. ACCEPT: Embrace all parts of yourself. Take ownership of your feelings (I have these feelings inside, but I am not my feelings).
  5. CHOOSE: For what you really want (True self or False self. Set a goal).
  6. ACT: Take action quickly that aligns with your choice.
  7. EVALUATE: Awaken, feel, watch, accept and choose again for your goal.
  8. CREATE: Create yourself and your life as you really want it to be.

For today’s post my focus is on step #8 Evaluate. As stated above, evaluate is to awaken myself, bringing my mind back to me, feeling myself, watching myself, accepting myself and choosing again for what I want. Essentially, evaluating is checking myself towards my creation.

At the beginning of 2022, I created a theme for my year, as I have done for the last seven years.  This year’s theme was: Strengthen My Inner Watcher.  I wanted to increase my power to observe my everything – my sensations, thoughts, emotions, habits, beliefs – from an eye inside that is able to watch without judging or reacting. I have had moments of profound experience with this “eye” over the course of my journey, and have felt it opening more widely and more often in my daily life as I continue to grow. I wanted to pay more attention to nurturing the eye inside of me that’s watching me. 

However, not long after the year began, my theme grew an addendum.  The addition to my 2022 theme became: Don’t Take Anything Personally.  Just like in Don Miguel Ruiz’s, The Four Agreements, I chose the second agreement. I added this because as I worked on my first theme, I found what was really stealing my watching power was every time I fell into taking things personally – shrinking myself into a tiny me who falls into viewing myself/others/life with a tiny “eye.” It felt necessary to declare this a year where I will no longer feed that habit – no longer engage in taking things personally.

Now, standing here at the Check Point, I can look back and see how my life has unfolded, as it always does, in a way that is helping me to achieve these goals.  Not only can I see it that way, but I can choose it to be so, which is even more empowering.

So far in 2022, I have had good times and bad times. To be more accurate, I have actually had really amazing and wonderful times (launching Healing Tree!), as well as really painful and confusing times (losing a relationship that was very important to me).  I have experienced days where I implemented new exercise routines and found my body getting stronger, as well as days that my body has done weird, wildly uncomfortable things to remind me of its aging process (peri-menopause, anyone?) I have had adventure (traveling to Japan!) as well as plenty of the same old same old (traveling around the same three rooms of my house and never even going outside :))  

Over the past six months, I held onto my two themes as I traveled up and down the hills and valleys of what life had to offer me, and, in doing so, I came out with an awakening.  I can see now how each high and low was driving me closer to my watcher within. When the high was very high, and I got pulled away from myself, I learned how to re-center again quickly, reaching for my watcher to bring me to a neutral, centered space. When the low became too low, I learned how to let go of my small self a little more, take things a little less personally, let go of my ideas and expectations, and surrender with trust.  I can also see the parts of my heart where I need to do even more of that, and feel more clear now about the road ahead.  Today, on this check point day, I feel grateful to see my self-creation continuing to unfold as I intended.

It’s so important to have these checking times. Without them, we easily let life pass us by, and neglect to see how it has transformed us.  We miss the chance to realize that if we set our intention, things do happen as we choose, even though it doesn’t always feel so the midst of struggle, or even though life happened to bring us on a not-so-direct path towards that creation. When we look back, feeling into the experience of life with honesty, we can see a bigger picture, feel a greater sense of gratitude, grow confidence in ourselves and find deeper trust in the universe. We can feel the great joy of creating ourselves anew, and the preciousness of Life.

Because of the profound benefits I have discovered, I will continue to make an effort to wake myself up from time to time to do this self-check.  Evaluating doesn’t mean judging myself as having done right or wrong, it just means checking in with myself, offering gratitude to what has been and re-setting my direction if needed. It is treating life as a fantastic work of art, and welcoming all happenings as messages from the universe, guiding me towards that creation.

I hope this post will inspire you to pause and reflect on your year so far, extract any lessons, take any gifts, offer gratitude for it all, and move forward towards an even brighter 2022.  I am sending you tons of light & love for your creation!

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Jen :)
Jen :)
3 months ago

I LOVE this!! I love you sharing your heart, knowledge and love. I taught live last night and one of our topics was Emotional Intelligence. Self- awareness as well as Self- Regulation are 2 factors. I actually thought about you and smiled 🙂 I’m sorry for your losses too… and oh so proud of you! +911 LOL.

Paola
Paola
3 months ago

Thank you for the reminder. Yes I set my goal. Thank you

Vince
Vince
3 months ago

Yes, I have had glimpses of this recently. But this way you speak of is clearer. This clarity will help me. Things seem to happen more symbolicaly for me nowdays. It is saying, “You are on the right track , so keep going”. Just now I was correcting the spelling of clarity. On the tv, just as my cursor was on the word to correct it, a voice from the tv commercial said that very word, clarity. That is exactly how things connect. Not all the time. But more than coincidence with no meaning. Creating a life that would be my dream life is on my agenda now. Life being daily quality. Things i really love. Healing Tree bolsters this up. Master Danielle, good blog, thanks ichibon fan Vinson

Sharon
Sharon
3 months ago

Danielle, you certainly have had some highs this year in publishing your book and creating a Healing Tree community group. How awesome is that! I’m sorry that you experienced painful times in that you lost a relationship that was important to you. Focus on your awesome accomplishments and your inner beauty!

Kellie
Kellie
3 months ago

Beautiful post, Danielle, I admire your commitment to yourself and the person you want to be. Light and blessings to you. 💚

Tina
Tina
3 months ago

This is wonderful, Danielle. It’ll complement my Keeper of the Brain work nicely. Thanks so much for sharing. I’m glad you bring gratitude into this exercise, because once we move into it, we can go anywhere. It’s helped uproot me from many a stuck place ❤️

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